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The key to succeeding in marriage is not finding the right person; it is learning to love the person you found
In relationships, we are working day and night to provide and receive:
• good company,
• a sense of belonging
Sadly, either these are not enough or we fail after each trial. This is because when it comes to the relationship we have with Allah(swt) many of us happily receive but never give in return. Therefore, we have to cultivate our relationship with Allah(swt) on a daily basis if we do not want to fail in life. *♥*
Have hope that your marriage can survive your spouse cheating on you. Here's what you can do to get beyond the hurt, forgive your unfaithful spouse, and save your marriage.
◘ Don't make any major decisions about ending your marriage now just because your spouse has been unfaithful. This is the time to do some reflection on your marriage to see what other issues other than this infidelity need to be recognized and dealt with.
◘ Feelings are neither right or wrong. Accept that your feelings of rage, uncertainty, shock, agitation, fear, pain, depression and confusion about having an unfaithful spouse are normal.
◘ Take care of yourself.
◘ Balance is the key to getting through this experience of coping with infidelity. Force yourself to eat healthy foods, to stay on a schedule, to sleep regular hours, etc.
◘ Spend some time with people who make you smile. Life goes on in spite of heartache and unfaithful spouses.
◘ Tears are healthy too.
◘ Pray to Allah to grant you endless patience to deal with difficult situations.
◘ Ask all the questions you want. Talk with your spouse about the infidelity. However, you may have to accept that your spouse may not know why the infidelity took place.
◘ Seek counseling (of knowledgeable people). Don't try to get through coping with unfaithfulness alone.