My Wedding

Thursday, January 27, 2011

Islamic birth Rites...

Alhamdulillah i have reached 30 weeks...inshaAllah 10 more weeks to go....

Now besides sibuk kemas2 bilik, now me and habib are looking into islamic birth rights takut tertinggal anything.

ok the first thing we should do is

1) Azan (Adhan)

Reciting the Azan to our baby's right ear.The words of Azan can halau the syaitan as mentioned below

Narrated Abu Huraira: Rasulullah SAW said, "When the adhan is pronounced Satan takes to his heels and passes wind with noise during his flight in order not to hear the adhan... [hadith Bukhari book 11 hadith 582]

This amalan mmg we all buat dari dulu lagi kan, actually untuk give indication that inshaAllah all parents will bring up the anak mengikut the guidance of Islam, correct? but sadly ramai sangat yang buat amalan ni for the baby, but solat sendiri tak terjaga. solat anak bila baligh pun tak jaga. InshaAllah May all of us, strengthen our Tauhid to become parents yang beriman, and didik anak2 yang soleh. Ameen.

2) Tahnik

Tahnik is a process of chewing something sweet ( selalunya tamar/dates) and gently rubbing it agianst the baby's upper jaw or palate so that the baby can suck it. The baby's first taste should be something sweet, so parents may chew a piece of date and rub the juice along the baby's gums. It was a practice carried out by the Prophet Muhammad SAW and is believed to help tiny digestive systems to kick in.

Narrated Anas bin Malik took 'Abdullah bin Abu Talha to Rasulullah SAW to perform tahnik for him. (tahnik was a custom among the Muslims that whenever a child was born they used to take it to the Prophet who would chew a piece of date and put a part of its juice in the child's mouth). I saw the Prophet and he had an instrument for branding in his hands and was branding the camels of Zakat. [Hadith Bukhari Book 24, Hadith 578]

Narrated 'Aisha: A boy was brought to the Prophet to do tahnik for him, but the boy urinated on him, whereupon the Prophet had water poured on the place of urine.  [Hadith Bukhari Book 66, Hadith 377]

3) Aqiqah 

Our misconception is that the aqiqah is a party organise by family of the newborn after the meat is cook. but in actual fact Aqiqah is the sacrifice that is made when the child is born. Sacrifice yang dimaksudkan is sembelih of the animal (2 sheep for baby boy, 1 sheep for baby girl, but Rasulullah SAW sacrifice 1 sheep each during the aqiqah of Hassan and Hussien his grandsons) also shave the babies head and naming the child (please refer to hadith below) . 

Narrated Samurah ibn Jundub: Rasulullah SAW) said: A boy is in pledge for his aqiqah, Sacrifice is made for him on the seventh day, his head is shaved and he is given name.  ( Sunan Abu dawud Book 15, Hadith 2832)

The Aqiqah is a right (upon you). Sacrifice two compatible sheep for a boy and one for a girl. [Hadith Ahmad]

The actual sacrifice should best be taken place on the baby 7th day. If the aqiqah does not take place on the 7th day, it may still be sacrificed on the 14th or 21st day. Often during Aqiqah, families have a get together when the meat is eaten. The meat should be contributed to friends, family and golongan miskin.

Buraydah RAA reported that Rasulullah SAW said: The aqiqah should be slaughtered on the 7th day. 14th day or 21st day [Hadith Tabarani]

Narrated Abdullah ibn Amr ibn al-'As: The Apostle of Allah (peace_be_upon_him) was asked about the aqiqah. He replied: Allah does not like the breaking of ties (uquq), as though he disliked the name. And he said: If anyone has a child born to him and wishes to offer a sacrifice on its behalf, he may offer two resembling sheep for a boy and one for a girl. [Sunan Abu Dawud Book 15, Hadith 2836]

4) Naming the newborn

A few Hadith has indicate that naming the child should be done on the 7th day, but don't worry ada juga hadith indicated that Rasulullah SAW named some newborns before the 7th day (example hadith below).

Narrated Abu Musa: I got a son and I took him to the Prophet SAW who named him ibrahim, and put in his mouth the juice of a date fruit (which be himself had chewed?, and invoked for Allah's blessing upon him, and then gave him back to me. He was the eldest son of Abii Musa.  (Hadith Bukhari Book 73, Hadith 218)

i did a seperate entry on naming the child please visit here

5) Shaving the head

After shaving the newborn's head clean on the 7th day as well, Sedeqah is to be given which is equal to the value to the weight of the hair in silver.

Rasulullah SAW commanded his daughter Fatimah RAA to do it for the children " O Fatimah, shave his head and give charity equal to his hairs weight is silver [ Hadith Ahmad]

Narrated Abdullah ibn Umar: The Prophet (peace_be_upon_him) saw a boy with part of his head shaved and part left unshaven. He forbade them to do that, saying: shave it all or leave it all.  (Sunan Abu Dawud Book #33, Hadith#4183)

Ibn Umar reported that Allah's Messenger (may peace be upon him) forbade Qaza. I said to Nafi: What is Qaza'? He said: This means having a part of a boy's head shaved and leaving a part unshaven.  (Hadith Muslim Book 024, Hadith 5289)

6) Khitan - Circumcision

Removal of the foreskin (for boys before he reaches puberty and sunat for girls)

It is preferable to be done while the child is newborn as Rasulullah SAW performed circumcision for his grandsons Hasan and Hussien on the 7th day [Bayhaqi]. However it can be done anytime before the child reaches puberty

Narrated Abu Huraira: Allah's Apostle said, "Five practices are characteristics of the Fitra: circumcision, shaving the pubic region, clipping the nails and cutting the moustaches short."  [Hadith Bukhari Book 72, Hadith 777, Hadith Muslim]

Narrated Umm Atiyyah al-Ansariyyah: A woman used to perform circumcision in Medina. The Prophet (peace_be_upon_him) said to her: Do not cut severely as that is better for a woman and more desirable for a husband.  [Sunan Abu dawud Book 41, Hadith 5251]

Wednesday, January 26, 2011

Wedding attire for rent (updated)

salam girls,

Both my baju is available for rental now

Kalau nak rent veil sahaja pun boleh.

Tapi sewa as is k..unfortunately I'm not encouraging alterations.....

measurements suits for body size between

Bust - 33-36inch

suitable for height between 154-165cm

price (can be rented separately or together)
Baju- RM xxx
Veil- RM 1xx

By rizman ruzaini

By Man (Kajang)

siapa yg minat to sewa , kindly e-mail me

sewa for 7 days only ( additional cost will be charge for extensions)



p/s: terms and condition applied..hehehe...

* special discount for those staying in klang valley

Simply beautiful- Why women cry

Why Women Cry... 

A little boy asked his mother, "Why are you crying?" 

"Because I'm a woman," she told him. 

"I don't understand," he said.

His Mom just hugged him and said,

"And you never will."

Later the little boy asked his father, "Why does mother seem to cry for no reason?"

"All women cry for no reason," was all his dad could say.

The little boy grew up and became a man, still wondering why women cry.

Finally he met an old man who would surely know the answer.

And he asked him: "Old man, why do women cry so easily?"

Old man sad: "When woman was created, she had to be made special. Allah created her shoulders strong 
enough to carry the weight of the world, yet gentle enough to give comfort. 

She was given an inner strength to endure childbirth and the rejection that many times comes from her children. 

And a hardness that allows her to keep going when everyone else gives up, and take care of her family through sickness and fatigue without complaining.

Allah gave her the sensitivity to love her children under any and all circumstances, even when her child has hurt her very badly. 

She was given strength to carry her husband through his faults and she was fashioned from his rib to protect
his heart.

Allah gave her wisdom to know that a good husband never hurts his wife, but sometimes tests her strengths and her resolve to stand beside him unfalteringly.

And lastly, Allah gave her a tear to shed. This is hers and only hers exclusively to use whenever she needs it.

She needs no reason, no explanation, its hers."

"You see my son," said old man, "the beauty of a woman is not in the clothes she wears, the figure that she carries, or the way she combs her hair.

The beauty of a woman must be seen in her eyes, because that is the doorway to

her heart - the place where love resides."

Monday, January 17, 2011

viral fever...

salam all...

i just have to share my first experience demam while pregnant...

well it all started last week, my family was going to move out from our house.... I only had one job to do, help jaga my anak-anak sedara (yang all baru nak sihat alhamdulillah from a viral fever), so yg can pack pack rumah..of course i cannot tolong pack, takut if angkat2 berat, nanti lagi susah....

tapi Allah swt had other plans...i fell sick....first it started with runny nose, lepas tu sore throat..from sore throat of course it's an infection, so i started having fever....lepas tu, from sore throat it started my athma(lelah), dahlah first time demam masa pregnant, terus dapat fever and lelah the same time...(i berjangkit from my anak sedara, he got it masa he went to tadika, heish musim2 sekolah baru start, always byk demam-demam)..masa ni, nak jalan2 tak larat because fever, nak baring tak selesa becase lelah (susah nak nafas). and the worst part Habib was outstation for 5 days, ahad baru balik...

sedih sgt masa ni, because of that, i tak boleh tolong jaga my anak2 sedara, and it was so difficult for family..i feel sooooo bad....

but alhamdulillah now i"m feeling so much better now...alhamdulillah Habib balik safely, straight away took care of me..hehee...

on the other hand,  i"m entering my 8th month alhamdulillah... look at the picture tummy dah turun kan??...and i think it got smaller...maybe my body is retaining less water now...but my face stilll booolllat sgt...

Monday, January 10, 2011

Names- recommendations

Firstly I would like to share with my readers, my baby bump a few weeks ago..masa ni around 26 weeks..

Besar kan my baby bump mashaAllah...everyone that i see will mention the weight gain almost 10kgs now...but all concentrated to my face, tummy and macam tak stable, and i look like a blob...esp because my face dah soooooo bulat...i can't even look at my pictures anymore...

anyway today i decided to share some Islamic recommendations on naming our new born child. Why is it so penting to bagi our babies names with good meaning??? because Rasulullah SAW mentioned "You will be called by your name on the day of judgment' . 

Meaning during akhirat time, we only bring 2 things with us 1)our amalan and 2)our names. So i guess it is quite important to give goood meaning to our, good meaning not just in arabic, good meaning in any language is accepted in Islam, but of course Arabic would be the best...inshaAllah...

1) It is recommended to give the child a name indicating servitude to Allah SWT

"indeed the best and most beloved names to Allah swt are Abdullah (servant of Allah) and Abd ur-Rahman (servant of the Most Merciful)" [hadith Muslim]

2) It is recommended to name the child after one of the Prophets and Messengers- the most righteous of humanity

This also use to be practiced by the Bani Israel as the Prophet SAW informed us and approved of with the hadith:

"they use to name their children after the Prophets and the pious people that came before them" [Hadith Muslim]

3) It is recommended to name the child after pious people in Islam and to teach the children about them

Thereby the child will inshaAllah grow up to love and respect them and follow their way and adopt their manners in righteousness and knowledge.
Examples include our Khalifah, Sahabat of the Prophet Muhammad SAW and scholars male and female....Umar, Uthman, Hamza, Fatima, Mariam, Aisha, Khadijah, Asma.....

4)It is recommended to give a child a name which has good meaning.

Names which have meanings of chastity, piety, honesty, and truth and more. Indeed names that fulfill the criteria of being truthful but not boastful about the Human nature should be chosen.

"the Most truthful names are : Harith (cultivator) and Hammam (planner) [hadith Muslim]

"The Prophet Muhammad SAW said : Call yourselves by the names of the Prophets. The names dearest to Allah are Abdullah and AbdurRahman, the truest are Harith and Hammam, and the worst are Harb and Murrah."[hadith Abu Dawood]

Tuesday, January 4, 2011

welcome 3rd trimester....

Alhamdulillah, i'm reaching my 3rd trimester...had my check up today...alhamdulillah all is well....

Baby bump last month at 24 weeks....
ok so new baby updates, doc today did 3d scan..mashaAllah we saw the exciting...doc printed a black and white picture, but save all the scan in CD from week 6 (my first check up) nanti bila dah deliver, he will give us the cd, nanti boleh print the pictures out and keep for memory sake inshaAllah...

my baby bump now is actually lagi besar dari the picture above..hehee...i will update soon, bagi surprise sikit...yes my stomach is besar sikit, and tadi when i saw the doctor, i had to ask why is my stomach so besar when i compare with my friends...hehee..and doc explained that its mainly because of my height. I am not so tall so there is not much space in my stomach, so the stomach has to stretch out, and on top of that my keturunan retain a lot of water in our body, hence why my baby bump is besar.

also even better news, mashaAllah now another one of my sis is alhamdulillah now 3 of us sisters are pregnant...heheoh sgt, we all can share share stories. i told the doctor to give family pun gelak je...

baby now is 1kg..hehehe..alhamdulillah..i'm so happy....kicking and kicking happily..u know something, no one else dapat merasa my baby kick,because every time someone else touches my stomach, the baby will stop kicking...except for the father...with habib, he has a special game, if habib puts his hand on the left side of my stomach, baby akan kick left side je. If tukar and puts his hand on the right side of my stomach, he will punch the right side pulak..I dont know how our baby knows, but mashaAllah its just amazing...when first time the baby buat we thought it was just rezeki..but the baby has done it a few times already this month(of course only with the father)...and when someone else tries touching my stomach again, he will just stop kicking terus...its so funny..

muntah update, sadly i still muntah sikit sikit..i was hoping by 3rd trimester it will stop, but since 2011, i have muntah 2  hari already...but then again, its under control..alhamdulillah i'm so glad its nothing serious like other 3rd trimester issues like diabetic, anemia, hign blood pressure, placenta not at the right place and many many more...I'm so bersyukur alhamdulillah...

as for baby things, well so far we have all the big things, alhamdulillah like baby cot, car seat, bath tub, most of it of course hand me downs from my sis and sis in law...the ones that we have bought is breast pump, baby bottles, stroller(a special present from the grandparents), baby bumbo (from warehouse clearence fabulous mum for only RM 125 wth tray)..and many baby bajus ( I just couldn't resist the year end sale)...

byk lagi small things tak settle yet but inshaAllah within the next 2 months we will buy them slowly, and start to set up the room.