Concerned mummy

Baby boy is not feeling too good.. I dont know because he is too tired from school and a hectic weekend or its just a viral flu... But for now, he gets to ponteng school coz i want him to get better fast and also i dont want him to infect any other kids...

Last weekend it was hubbys cousins wedding.. We all had fun doing his hantaran... May Allah SWT bless the newlywed.. Ameen

Hantaran made with love...

My most recent hantaran project..with my favorite flower...eustoma...

June & July updates

I have friends complaining, kenapa i don't upload my blog as often as i use to...

well  

no1)  i have finish uploading entries on my nikah..if anybody wants me to upload any specific entry regarding my nikah...do email me at sabsabby22@gmail.com

no 2) MOST IMPORTANT , in July, ialah bulan yang paling kami busy because we are planning for 4 major functions...

- nikah my sis

- our joined reception

- tandang on habibs side

- tandang on my sisters future hubby(inshaAllah)'s side... 

but its going to be so exciting...

some has said, wah you must love weddings so much, to have a blog, and write about it...well to tell you the truth, its not just weddings..i love any events that requires planning.. and we(+ my family) love planning from family holidays to family gatherings to raya, anniversaries and birthdays......hehhee...its not just planning a wedding that gives me that rush..is planning anything, that involves decorations + theme...

i love decorations ALOT...to me flowers are absolutely beautiful...esp fresh flowers...Allah swt gave us flowers for us to decorate, and i will make full use of it..ehehehe....and you know the best part about flowers, we MUST use it to decorate, because if we just leave it on the pokok, it will still die...

but the funniest part is, i hate receiving flowers as a gift...i don't allow my hubby to buy me a bouquet of flowers to give me...because its just soo mahal and most of the time its tak cantik, because to me flowers wrap in plastic like that mmg tak cantik, i can do better myself.....if he wants to give me flowers, either from cameron, floristika or petaling street..hehehe...and it must be loose flowers, coz the best part is to arrange it sendiri...

speaking of flowers, hari tu, i tolong one of my good friend for her hantaran...we went to floristika together to buy flowers, of course, the bride choose the flowers herself..like me she loves eustoma and carnations..i love these 2 flowers..mmg sgt cantik...i also helped buat the handbouquet.very uniqe yellow flowers..of course, choosen by the bride herself..hehhee...tapi i cannot find any picture of it...hmm must ask from her...

i did it at the last minute, 1 day before nikah baru nak sibuk arrange, padahal be bought the flowers 3 days before the nikah..hehhee..me the procrastinator...

Hantaran

as i have mentioned in this entry, I was absolutely happy with my hantaran. It was so cantik, with the combination of my fav. flowers eustoma and roses.

MG was responsible for the hantaran in the first picture. oh again, i love the flower combination so much.

hantaran from the groom, was made personally by his cousins. I love the dulang for this very much.

Me and hubby decided to make our pertukaran hantaran simple, from me was ring, sejadah, chocolate, cake and a baju melayu

and he gave ring+mas kahwin, telekung+sejadah, cake, fruits, and baju kurung.

yes we indeed exchanged 5 and 5....

I think this was one of the biggest comments i received, this was the cause of many fallout and misunderstanding that i had with families and friends.

But alhamadulillah, in the end, it had all worked out for the best  for us...

I was told that the exchanging, started so kita tak datang rumah tetamu tangan kosong, which is mashaAllah what Rasulullah SAW has reminded us to do, to give gifts and buah tangan to each other within kemampuan..hehehe..

so , in conclusion, no girls, i was not trying to start a new trend or went against our adat, all i did, was i went old school, and back to exchanging gifts as tuan rumah and tetamu. Personal items due to safety reasons, we just exchange personally, also didn't want to worry about expensive things being displayed on the hantaran. Takut sgt hilang.

oh i miss those days, where hantaran was just dulang after dulang of food that we can eat after the wedding...heehe...as a child, it was my fav part.

p/s: do visit http://merisikgallery1.blogspot.com/ for more beautiful hantarans and the absolutely beautiful garden theme pelamin, they did in feb 2010, for amy's wedding.

My 1st hantaran...

My 1st ever hantaran yg i buat sendiri..with great help from my sis of course...

MERISIK GALLERY

Dream hantaran

In my previous entry i've mentioned that, due to our small budget we had to toss having beautiful hantarans.....

But me being a classic bridezila, I long having beautiful hantarans so what I do at night before I sleep is I blog hop and peep at others hantaran...and my favorite hantarans (i swear) are mostly at merisik gallery fotopages... MashaAllah even before I had a blog, merisik gallery is already in my favourites list....

Being a typical girl that I am, pink and white is my dream wedding theme...hence I've always dreamt of having fresh white and pink flowers on my hantarans...and i don't know whether it's a coincidence but i choose to call it faith, merisik gallery somehow has made many-many hantaran similar to my wedding theme... and the best part is, I've always wanted my hantaran on a flat try (if u see even our brothers hantaran pun is on a flat tray)...exactly like the picture below...ahh look at it...just beautiful...I love it sooo much..I want my hantaran to be exactly like this...

Wedding according to the Quran and Hadeeth Rasulullah SAW‏

Salam

Here are some raugh guidelines on how our prophet SAW guided us on weddings in Islam..Allahu Akhbar...

1) Choose the right partner: 'men can choose women because of their wealth, position, beauty and agama,if utamakan the agama, thus u will profit from it' hadith bukhari and Muslim. 'as for the women, if comes a guy with good iman and akhlak, then marry him' hadith tarmidzi, hadis hasan(baik) menurut al-Albaniy.

2) Akad nikah at a suitable place. Paling afdal is in Masjid (but take note that women in mentruation(inclusive of bride and guests) are not allowed in the praying area, corridor/hall is allowed though). 'pukullah kompang' Hadis (hassan a.k.a good) ahmad and Tarmidzi

3) No such thing as hantaran is WAJIB...so yes if u dont hv anough money ITS OK not to have hantaran. If ada rezeki by all means (but don't forget to be humble because we if niat to riya', riya' hukum is syirik. The only thing that is WAJIB in nikah is the MAHAR(mas kahwin) firman Allah SWT in surrah al nisaa ayat no 4.(refer to alquran). the amount of the mas kahwin is determined by both the future bride and grooms family. The less burden the guy gets from collecting the mahar, the more Allah s.w.t will berkat the marriage, (refer to hadith sahih Iman Ahmad) also (hadith muslim, al-hakim, & ibnu Majah :- 'sebaik-baik mas kahwin ialah mas kahwin yang paling mudah dan ringan'

4) Give out Favours during nikah, Rasullulah SAW galakkan us to give out manisan ex:dates(kurma) during the nikah

5) Isytiharkan ur nikah kepada as many poeple as you can, so we dont create any fitnah.

6) As for the walimah, in Islam it says that 'adakanlah majlis walimah walaupun dengan seekor kambing' hadith muslim, clearly here shows that even those who don't have that much money still can afford to get married. & yes, for those with more rezeki, having wedding in hotels, halls, is still allowed in Islam, as long as your niat is not to menunjuk-nunjuk, Para tetamu has both the rich and the poor.'Rasulullah SAW says:- the worst of walimah is those who only invited the rich, and forgetting the poor' hadith bukhari and Muslim.
And hindarkan segala adat yang against Islam esp those came from other religion and culture example. 'Rasulullah SAW says 'anyone yang menyerupai adat suatu kaum, maka that person will termasuk dalam that kaum', hadith Ahmad and Abu Daud.( now this can be a big sin if the adat we are following is amongst the non believer)

7) It's Sunnah for the guests to congratulate the newlywed

8) Malam pertama, solat jemaah together (solat wajib and solat sunat) for Allah SWT will berkat a marriage when it starts the right way.

This are the only 8 things needed for a muslim wedding....so there is no such thing as kahwin nowadays is expensive, It will only be mahal if u want it to be mahal (life is all about choices). Allah s.w.t has made things so simple for everyone. It is up to us whether we want to follow the simple way. Marriage is sangat digalakkan in Islam, so I don't think we should go around telling people how expensive wedding is nowadays and how hard it is to do it.Why not instead, show people how in Islam we don't need to do things the hard way.

I went to 2 weddings 2007, the brides came from very rich families (who had their own private jet,helicopter, private yatch and many2 cars)... 1 wedding they spent RM5k total, the other one was below RM20k, after realizing there is so much more in life than just a huge grand wedding. One of them decided to give the rest of the money to the pakistan earthquake victims instead. InsyaAllah the good deed they did was accepted and rewarded by Allah s.w.t.