its ok....

Its ok, that I'm not having bunga pahar, because i'm not going to do tepung tawar...

its ok that I'm not going to have a second persalinan during my wedding, because i''m not going to have upacara potong cake...

It's ok that I'm not going to have live performance.

Its ok that I'm not going to have malam berinai, or majlis khatam Quran.

Its ok, that I want to invite so many people to my akad.

Its ok that I'm not doing my function in a house or a mosque,my house is too small, and and if the bride is menstruating masa time nak nikah, then how is she suppose to enter the mosque???? so the next option is to find a comfortable place for everyone...

It's ok that i'm not doing meja beradap, because I want to spend time with my guests as much as i can

Its ok that we berbalas-balas hantaran 5 to 5 and me not giving extra 2, guess what, its actually sunnah to berbalas-balas gifts among familes...as long as its serdehana and tidak membebankan anybody..... and tak salahkan nak bagi equal??

its ok that we don't have wang hantaran on the hantaran...

many readers have expressed opinions about my previous post, I know it has created some commotion..what I expressed can be misinterpreted..
I'm not trying to say that doing anything above is wrong...tak..I'm trying to explain that me not doing anything above, even though its against our tradition, but it's not against Islam.
I'm sorry if it hurts...I"m just so hurt, by people who are close to me who's been saying "sab, u buat wedding macam ni, memang tak tahanlah your marriage"...

Nauzubillah...

I have nothing against anything, I have nothing against anything yg tak against agama..I'm not saying giving 20 hantaran is wrong, nor am I saying spending a lot of money for a wedding is wrong..or having bunga pahar is wrong..or having a wedding cake is wrong..tak salah......

its just a matter of preference...many disagree with my wedding concept..But i don't mind..i have specific things that i want..that i have dreamt of having for my wedding itu sahaja........

and why i mentioned about religion, is because many have implied to me, that my wedding concept, is against the concept of /wedding/marriage, whereas, our prophet SAW, has made weddings very simple for Muslims...I'm a person who is very passionate towards knowing more about the concept of Quran and Sunnah after learning about it a few years ago..I'm just trying to explain, our Rasulullah SAW, didn't have a majlis tepung tawar( to bless the pengantin) and yet he had a blessed marriage from Allah SWT .That is what i meant as a Quran & Sunnah compliace wedding...That we do the bare minimum, similar to how our Prophet SAW has done and still get Baraqah for the marriage, and please everyone that attends the majlis (and people at the majlis to not create any fitnah and understand that the pengantin choose to do a plain wedding and not follow our culture.....

I just want a plain but memorable and sweet wedding for myself...and to all out there, if whatever you want does not collide with our Religion, and the teachings of our Prophet SAW, than inshaAllah you will have a great wedding.....

Again, I apologise if i Hurt anybody, I'm just a hurt b2b expressing how I feel after having tons and tons of so many bad comments to about my akad concept...

I sincerely apologise if I sound a bit harsh, its not my intention..I didn't realise the previous post was soo aggressive..
p/s: It's my first time getting hate e-mails..I'm so scared... i decided to keep my blog anonymous...

Nikah concept

salam

Nikah,  ijab-qabul is syariah compliance. Ijab-Qabul its an Ibadah.Which makes akad nikah syariah compliance...It is Allahs Law.. It is hukum wajib(for some, not all... according to their kemampuan) by Allah SWT...It is an event that we do by the instructions of our Almighty Creator. Its something that Allah SWT promise if we do it right, Allah SWT will give us full Baraqah to the marriage...

In Malaysia, When it comes to adat, different place, different negeri, different bangsa has different adat...so there is no way any pengantin can please everybody at the same time..right??

somehow,, somewhere something, someone will get hurt...

so the best thing to do -->follow the adat of our religion.. then nobody will get hurt..kan???

As Muslims its our duty to do our very level best to please Allah SWT as much As we can.. 


Of course what I personally do and practise for my wedding is never going to be perfect, but I must at least try, the ones that i mampu..right??



Allah SWT did remind us through a hadith sahih by our Prophet SAW that says, " Holding on to my sunnah, is like holding on to the ball of fire"


nothing in life comes easy...no dugaan is easy...no life is simple....

its all dugaan and part of life...

I have come to understand that this article has hurt many, hence why its been edited...a personal blog entry argument between me and a friend, had been assumed the worst...

bottom line is, i know many who has broke off their relationship, broke off their engagement , just because both sides can't agree to a common adat. I know a couple, who can't get married because the parents forbid a 'shafie' to marry a 'maliki'. I know a couple who broke off their engagement because hantaran tunang was no good enough....I know a guy who had to do 3 jobs, just because he has to give RM 10k wang hantaran cash to the bride, with no mercy from the brides side. And the biggest thing, i know close people around me, who hates me and cannot support what I do because of my non practising adat wedding  ....

is this what has happened to our society?? Taking  pepatah melayu "biar mati anak, jgn mati adat" literally.

I know for one thing, call me lupa my roots, but I'm a Malaysian and I'm a muslim, I will do my wedding follow our Malaysian law, and I will do my ijab-Qabul follow my syariah law.

Daniel Zain

Now I want to share with everyone my all time favourite photographer.....his tag line "natural.comtemparory.you" that is sooo me..hehehe...my fav is his family portrait...actually if u take a look at his blog, his more popular amongst the expats...but mashaAllah his wedding photos are still the best for me..
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from 3 years ago when 2 of my close friends took him for their wedding..i just fell in love..its the first wedding pictures that brought me to tears...but their nikah was the nikah that i cried most though..i think everyone that attended cried..hehehe...
but anyway, i knew i wanted him to do my wedding my wedding inshaAllah if ada rezeki..
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i'm in love with pictures of moments during a wedding ....i want to make sure i remember \my favours, my shoes, my henna...and everything in detail about my wedding..and inshaAllah i hope that is what i get, because its only the pictures that we have for later on..
so here are some pictures from his blog that i like....

all pictures taken from http://danielzainphotography.blogspot.com/

ilikecard

I did one of my card here...oh mashaAllah i have only good things to say about our dear Faizah...service was excellent....everything came on time, and the results was a beautiful card..i have got no complains at all...

my official card from another vendor hmm..I'm not so happy with it coz the colour is all wrong..but things can't be perfect..i just have to move on..

but the good news is i have this cards to be happy about..ohh mum says reception nanti i can just order from yes..oh yes i def will...inshaAllah...

and the website is

http://ilikecard.blogspot.com/

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the colour of the cover of the card lain sikit from the final card that i got, she made it even prettier...heheh..i love...the pink colour changed to a colour similar to the inside of the card.

so guys, what are u waiting for visit her site http://ilikecard.blogspot.com/

My 1st hantaran...

My 1st ever hantaran yg i buat sendiri..with great help from my sis of course...

Wedding updates

Nikah legal stuff:
Finally i finished all the legal stuff...gila panjang our step..1st to jais, and then to angkasa KJ and then back to jais again, and then to JAWI and finally to tok Kadi...I really don't understand why they make it so hard..URGH...i have so many bad things to say along the process, but its just a waste of time..right..

Videographer:
Alhamdulillah i found an amazing upcoming videgrapher ...very happy alhamdulillah..hopefully the final product will be just as i aspect it...inshaAllah..

Outfit
Went to my fitting 2 weeks ago..heheh..alhamdulillah I'm so happy..can't wait to see it again in 3 weeks..this time i hope i wont forget to take pics..

Decorator:
my most pening thing of all...i'm contemplating between the two..each has its pros and cons..i need my mummy to help..hehehe.......
1) is so cantik but mahal sikit
2) is slightly cheaper but not as nice..
so which one should i take?? but both guys are equally baik and has good reputations...

Catering:
Booked, but menu has not been finalise...finally they agreed to meet me tmwr...

Favours:
ordered, waiting for them to deliver it at my house..should be by this week...hmm...why no news from them??

Cards:
i made 2 cards..one for family to come for the akad..1 if for my friends to come after the akad inshaAllah...i did one of my cards from ilikecard...heheh..from the sample its so pretty..cant wait for it to sampai my house...she posted them yesterday...


Hantaran:
i cant wait for Merisik Gallery to make it...from our end we decided to give a ring, sejadah, cake, chocolate and 1 persalinan...

Honeymoon:
all settled

Jam wedding favours..

Salam,

ohh i just had the craziest weekend...i shall post about it after this one...hehehe...Since many many b2b has asked about the jam..so I shall do a special entry just to share where we got the jams from...all thanks to my 2nd sister for the info...

ok first, for our favours, we bought 2 flavours...strawberry and wild blueberry .....so each guest gets both of them..me personally i prefer the strawberry of course..yeah like so common kan. We lekat both of them together with hot glue gun..if not, because its berat , nanti the ribbon can tear.hahhahaa..for VIPs we gave 4 bottles, all 1 flavour each..we gave it in a bamboo box bought from SSF.

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they also have Apricot Jam, Orange Marmalade Jam and honey..but honey mahal sikit..

the price, i bet is what u girls want to know..its not as bad as u think it is...

price all jams are RM 1.60 each..honey is RM 2.30

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because our place is within klang valley..yes, you know it..the delivery chargers are free.alhamdulillah all went well and it was delivered on time..and the website is..

www.gourmandines.com

enjoy, and hope this info helps..and oh yess, ingredients are all halal

Wassalam