My Wedding

Monday, May 31, 2010

Inhuman PTD training

My beautiful cousin mashaAllah was a victim of inhuman treatment during her PTD training "Comando module". And Astaghfirullah she died while doing the training.

Verily to Allah SWT, Belongs what HE took and to HIM belongs what HE gave and everything with HIM has an appointed time...

oh May Allah swt forgive all her sins and Make her amongst those in syurga. And give strength to all family... Ameen ya Rabbal Alameen....

My cousin was not feeling well since Sunday itself, and pihak camp knew it, because they brought her to a clinic in banting and hospital banting.

Pihak kem dah tahu dia sakit tapi paksa dia  buat traning sama dengan yang lain.
Training dia merangkumi masuk lupur. masuk dalam air laut, minum air kotor stokin, kayak for 4 HOURS!

  SHE was FORCED to do while HAVING BREATHING DIFFICULTIES!

 Yang paling teruk pihak keluarga diberitahu, shima yang sedang sejuk (akibat demam) dan gunakan Jacket, ada seorang tenaga pengajar, yang RAMPAS jacket dari shima, selepas itu paksa shima masuk ke dalam tempat yang berlumpur. Astanghfirullah

Mestilah keadaan nya yang sakit jadi lebih teruk!

What happened at the camp? sampai bila shima sampai hospital, dia sudah dalam keadaan sangat kritikal?

Tak cukup, pihak kem tak cakap pihak keluarga langsung yang shima sakit, walaupun shima dah inform pihat kem untuk memberitahu keluarganya yang dia sakit.

FAMILY WAS ONLY INFORMED on Friday , when she was already tak sedar.

Yang paling saya tak faham, kenapa diorg simpan handphone? mereka bukankah sudah dewasa yang setengah tu sudah ada suami dah anak di rumah? Sebab diorg simpan handphone shima tak dapat inform kelaurga yang dia sakit.

Memang as Muslims mashaAllah, Family has accepted the fate from Allah SWT that today is her time to leave this world... Tapi sangat menyedihkan bila kami dapat tahu cara pihak kem handle kes ini.

Allah SWT knows what happened.Allah SWT knows best... And may all the irresponsible people get whatever they deserve.Amen....

wassalam

http://www.thesundaily.com/articlePrint.cfm?id=47369

http://www.bharian.com.my/bharian/articles/Kritikalselepaslatihanalakomado/Article

http://www.straitstimes.com/BreakingNews/SEAsia/Story/STIStory_533418.html

Quoted from Kosmo:-

Seorang rakan mangsa yang enggan dikenali memberitahu, mangsa pernah mengadu tidak sihat ketika latihan masuk hari kedua tetapi dia disahkan hanya mengalami demam biasa selepas mendapatkan rawatan di klinik berdekatan.
"Keadaan bertambah buruk apabila kami semua dipaksa menjalani latihan fizikal yang keras termasuk berkayak selama empat jam, berendam dalam kolam berlumpur dan minum air jus stoking," katanya ketika ditemui semalam.
Tambahnya, ekoran latihan lasak itu, Nor Hashimah semakin tenat apabila mukanya kelihatan pucat dan bibir kebiru-biruan sebelum dihantar ke HTAR Jumaat lalu.

Wednesday, May 26, 2010

Pengapit Makeup review / baby Stroller for sale












Maclaren Techno XLR -Almost New 


SELLING RM 1100

(retails Rm 1599)
Interested buyer Please contact 012-6830902 / e-mail: bridalmakeup.eija@gmail.com
  • Almost new, only 1 month old
  • Comes with box
  • Colour: Black champagne


Roomy, full-featured travel system coordinates with baby carrier and rocker.

Features :-
  • 4 reclination positions
  • 5 point harness for added security
  • Removable washable seat
  • Compact umbrella fold
  • Water resistant hood
  • High-performance aluminium frame
  • Handy mesh shopping basket
  • Carry strap or handle for easy portability
  • 5 second one-hand fold
  • Lockable, front swivel wheels
  • Square, with storage pockets, hood
  • UV protective viewing window, sun visor and extra panel for added sun protection
  • Ergonomically optimised handles
  • Foot-operated linked parking brakes
  • Customised luggage tag included
  • Front and rear wheel suspension
  • Height adjustable handles
  • Extendable leg rest
  • Height adjustable shoulder harness
  • Coordinating head hugger
  • Shoulder pads
  • Reflective accents
  • Coordinating seat liner
  • Raincover
Suitable for use from birth up to 18kg (~ 3 or 4 years)Gross Weight: 10.00 kg


Makeup Pengapit

Makeup For my pengapits i used the service of this makeup artist. She was one of my pengapit punya friend. And mashaAllah the makeup was so cantik looks so natural + beautiful, and they lasted the whole day sampai petang....fully recommended. Not just because she is talented, because the Quality of makeup yg she guna is very good mashaAllah..




. Do visit her website at

http://bridalmakeup-eija.blogspot.com


http://my.88db.com/Beauty/Makeup/ad-299986/



at her website ada pictures of both my pengapit. hehee..for wedding in July,of course we are taking her again. We have booked her for 2 days..hehhe... .



Tuesday, May 25, 2010

Grooms ring

Salam,

Hari tu i had an email asking about ring for guys.

We went surveying a few shops, at Habib Jewels they only had this material called suasa( thanks to nahwal). People say it still has gold in it, we all pun was was, so we figured might as well stay away....here are some hadith that haramkan the use of gold for men.


Islam has prohibited two kinds of adornment for men, while permitting them to women. These are, first, gold ornaments and, second, clothing made of pure silk. 'All reported that the Prophet (peace be on him) took some silk in his right hand and some gold in his left, declaring, "These two are haram for the males among my followers." (Reported by Ahmad, Abu Daoud, al-Nisai, Ibn Hayyan, and lbn Majah, who reports the additional phrase, "but halal for the females.") 'Umar reported that he heard the Prophet (peace be on him) say, 


The Prophet (peace be on him) once saw a gold ring on a man's hand. He immediately took it from him and threw it down saying, 'Does a person pick up a piece of burning coal and hold it in his hand?' After the Prophet (peace be on him) had left the place, someone asked the man, 'Why do you not pick it up and benefit from it?' He replied, 'No, by Allah! I shall not pick it up after the Messenger of Allah (peace be on him) has thrown it away.' (Reported by Muslim.)


The same prohibition which applies to the gold ring likewise applies to what we observe among conspicuous spenders, i.e., the gold pen, gold watch, gold cigarette case and lighter, gold teeth, etc.


The Prophet (peace be on him), however, permitted men to wear silver rings. On the authority of Ibn'Umar, al-Bukhari reported the former saying, "The Messenger of Allah (peace be on him) wore a silver ring. After him, Abu Bakr and then 'Umar and 'Uthman wore it, until it fell off his finger into the well of Arees." (Reported by al-Bukhari in the chapter on "Clothing" (Al-Libas).) As for other metals such as iron, there are no sound texts prohibiting them. On the contrary, in the Sahih of al-Bukhari we find that the Messenger of Allah (peace be on him) advised a man who wanted to marry a woman to,"Present her with a gift, even if it be ring made of iron.On the basis of this hadith al-Bukhari inferred the permissibility of iron rings.








alright to continue, If we wanted to buy platinum was a bit too expensive, so survery2, last last we found a ring, at Goldheart. The material is called Palladium. Palladium is family with platinumrhodiumrutheniumiridium and osmium. They are called the platinum group metals (PGMs).Palladium is heavy, so it feels solid to wear it. And of course the price, all depends on you hubby ring size, normal price is mmg less that RM1k, kalau saiz besar it can cecah above 1k. and masa we dekat goldheart pun there was byk other material for mens ring, yg mmg takda gold in it.They also have another interesting material called Platim (platinum +steerling), its worth to take a look as the price is between RM 3xx till RM 1xxx (information credits to TheBubblyMe)

. The ring looked something very similar to this.

Thursday, May 20, 2010

Wedding cheats

Ok hari tu, i janji to do a post on how i saved money for my wedding, so i can have spare for my reception...

i shall go straight to the point.

1) wedding at dewan komuniti

sewa dewan komuniti is always less then RM 2k, meaning if you rent 1 hari everyone boleh selesa dalam dewan. kalau buat dekat rumah, mmg best (our house depan main road, mmg confirm tak boleh tutup jalan), tapi cost untuk canopy can be mahal. for RM 2000 boleh dapat 4 khemah je maximum. That is why, i say if buat wedding at dewan komuniti can be very money saving, and the best part, dapat aircond sekali.

2) tables and chairs

to maximise tables and chairs, i used square tables instead of round. and sewa meja square lagi murah dari meja bulat. For myself, i mmg prefer square table, i have never liked meja bulat, sbb limit dia either 8 or 10 orang..sbb my family besar, kalau the whole family pergi wedding/makan2, family kitorang sure kena seperate meja, and i hate that. If square table, all of us can sit together.

Besides that, i didn't use any chair ribbon, because my decorator mentioned that chair ribbon, is unnecessary,  sbb tak perlu sangat pun for deco. so i actually save a few hundered sbb tak guna chair ribbons. my decorator mentioned, keep the chairs all white nanti nampak kemas and bersih...sebab he said kalau guna plastic chairs, nanti ribbon senang jatuh, senget, keromot, and nanti the whole place nampak tak kemas


3) decor

now of course, masa awal2, tak terfikir langsung nak buat gazebo tgh2 hall.. i wanted to do the deco on the stage, sbb tinggi nanti ramai orang nampak. But my mum suggested buat tgh2 dewan, buat platform so boleh duduk to nikah. My decorator suka the idea sbb, dapat save money, tak payah buat laluan and everything, lepas tu, kalau buat deco tgh dewan  everyone akan concetrate kat tgh dewan sahaja, plus he said ramai orang selalu segan nak naik pelamin utk ambil gambar sebab kat atas pentas, end up gambar orang selalu ambil kat laluan/or gerbang masuk je. so he said, kalau buat tgh2 dewan orang tak malu sangat nak pergi pelamin ambil gambar.

lepas tu, i remembered ayat2 cinta and loved the idea nikah tgh dewan. after that we came up with the idea, of building a gazebo tgh tgh dewan. dcorator cakap, stage tak payah guna, then dewan tak nampak kosong, sbb its a nikah, guest tak ramai macam kenduri walimah..

and i tanya pulak pasal centrepiece, he said tak payah pun takpa but if nak, just buat kecil2 pun ok....sbb org tak pandang sangat meja, poeple will just concentrate on the gazebo.
4) food

i think this is paling penting. of course ramai suka buat wedding yg hidang guna dome. But kalau buat buffet, boleh save half the harga, Kalau buffet, boleh dapat biasa from RM 15/person. so kalau invite 300 orang, baru RM 4500 ribu.. the best part kalau buat at dewan komuniti, you boleh panggil mana2 caterer, dia takda caterer yg u mesti guna..alhamdulillah...

5) centrepiece

ok, for centrepiece, i put chocolate dates, with small flower posy and wedding favour. Jadi with all this, meja square panjang2 tu dah tak nampak kosong alhamdulillah. chocolate dates, i just put on doily paper atas cardboard keras, yg u boleh beli mana2 supermarket and tak mahal. centrepiece, i mintak Merisik gallery tolong buatkan, ohh i suka sgt the flower combo, matching with my pink deco and eustoma hand bouquet.

final results for table deco

6) hantaran

saving money on hantaran, gave us a lot more money to be spent elsewhere like our honeymoon...

7) photographer

"spend within your means" this is something yg both my parents remind us all the time...for photographer the biggest way to save is to take a package only with soft copy, tak masuk album, because album is always a huge portion of the payment. and then after the wedding you can custom your own album according to your taste, there are some easy software available nowadays like photobook.or you can print out pictures in different sizes, and keep them in the wedding album.

but like i mentioned, this is only suitable for those who are looking to save money...For those with unlimited budget, i think all this rules does not apply...hheehhe

Thats all for now, if ada any questions, do email me, i will be more than happy to help, inshaAllah.

wassalam, 

sabby

Wednesday, May 12, 2010

Garage Sale


Friends of mine are going to do a garage sale....

venue: no 40 lorong 16/6c, seksyen 16, petaling jaya



Start Time:
Saturday, May 15, 2010 at 8:30am
End Time:
Sunday, May 16, 2010 at 6:00pm


KITCHEN STUFFS, DESIGNER CLOTHES & SHOES, BOOKS, KNICK KNACKS, ELECTRONICS,

horse riding gear, earing stands, plates, plastic ikea cups, correlle, camping gear, materials to buat baju, water sport stuffs and more to come!!


also silk and chiffon materials with beadings for sale..brand new no worries...

and yes, there will be handbags, shoes,clothes all sorts!!


EVERYTHING MUST GO!!!

Saturday, May 8, 2010

The change of plans (part 2)


So now from my previous post, i dah explain how my nikah became more like a reception that nikah..because it was memang suppose to be my reception.

The next decision that we had to make was  how to nikah in a hall, but keep the number small. U see when my sis nikah in the hall terus sambung reception, so it was not a problem. at this point my nikah was only for 200 poeple. 100 for habibs family and 100 for my family...

But the problem is, dewan tu besar, it fits paling sikit that will look cantik is 28 tables..that is 280 people kan..so after weighing our options, I decided, why not for nikah invite all my friends and reception in July, concentrate on my parents friends only..so we will proceed with small reception of 400-500 pax in July

ok, i ordered cards and send sms and facebook msg to all my friends to ajak for my "reception" after my nikah...this was 2 months before the wedding..i had to invite all my friends because i can't invite them for my reeption in july because the hall that we booked for july reception max boleh 450 pax only

so kiranya masa ni the plan is family datang for nikah at 11am, and friends datang from 12pm to 2pm for makan2 for all of my friends...

but during this time,  i punyalah pujuk my sis to kahwin together in July..sebab they were planning to do their wedding either late December 2010 or early 2011...pujuk punya pujuk..finally my sis agreed to kahwin sekali in July...so instead of having a small reception for my parents friend sahaja.we agreed on, my sis nikah 1 day before the reception. and reception ajak everyone..then orang tak payah datang bnyk kali..yelah nanti everybody muak, my family je ada byk function nak kena pergi..n we tak buat during school hols so susah for families to travel far...

So in Jan 2010, my sis go engaged..alhamdulillah..hehehe...ohh i cannot mention how thankful i am to Allah swt, my sis and her fiancĂ©e and parents for agreeing to this arrangement.

our july reception kan dewan boleh muat 450 pax only..we all pun decided dari buat sit down might as well do buffet..

since it was Jan 2010, takkan i nak tarik balik my invitations to all my friends, and tell them ohh my reception dah tukar july pulak..dah lah i dah ajak more then 100 people...Jadi we all pun teruskan jugak with all friends coming for my nikah on Feb 2010...and inshaAllah i will ajak everyone again in july..dah since buat buffet..so boleh ajak everyone.....

of course me and my sis have our own dream wedding correct?? so our parents agree that, nikah we the wedding that we want ...my sis pun dapat plan her dream wedding..and then reception. buat just a simple makan2..

so yes girls, that is the answer to every-bodies question...our reception inshaAlah, will be just a simple makan-makan,..it will look nothing like my nikah...dewan pun i tak ambil the decoration package to save money...

alhamdulillah i already had my dream wedding during my nikah, which is a more important date that i want to remember..and my sister will have her dream wedding during her nikah...inshaAllah...

the amount of times we had to change plans..ohh i dah jadi gila for a while...But Allah SWT knows best..and somehow this was the best arrangements for us alhamdulillah...

p/s: after this i will do an entry on how i saved money during my nikah. I received emails tanya how i can spend so much for my nikah...hehehe..its called wedding cheats..believe it or not, most of the advice came from my decorator.

Tuesday, May 4, 2010

The change of plans

i received emails sayaing how excited they are to see my reception. They have a theory if my nikah is like then, that what is my reception like??

well let me tell you girls, the story behind my nikah first...

initially when me and habib planned it, it was suppose to be nikah on the 19th feb 2010, at this absolutely beautiful place, dewan masjid saidina omar bukt damansara. Same concept, where we nikah at the stage, while the guests will be seated at the tables, while watching us on the stage. To me that would have been the best arrangements, because even if i was menstruating (red flag) during the nikah its not going to be a problem, sbb the dewan is not part of the tpt solat, but i still get to nikah in a masjid. Tak ke senang macam tu?

this is sample picture of the dewan at masjid bukit damansara. Kerja kahwin did a beautiful decor here, i fell i love, i hired them to be one of my decorator, for one of the 4 events we are having in July 2010 nanti inshaAllah. p/s: dewan ni selesa sampai 250 orang.

And the reception was going to be at Dewan komuniti bukit damansara, the next day. Of course we book dewan ni dulu, baru decide tpt nikah. So May 2009, we paid full for the hall, sbb ada 2 org nak tarikh yg sama. Kalau i tak bayar full, then org lain tu akan ambil my hall..of course i did not want that to happen kan..

tapi dewan ni alhamdulilah price ok, RM 1600 sewa for 1 day.

so i figured since dah book dewan might as well i book everything else..so i pun bayar caterer utk 19hb and 20hb feb. Both caterer yg sama, Sajian D'hidang (oh food dioorg mmg sgt sedap).

dewan kat masjid utk nikah pun sudah book. so bulan ogos 2009, i pun buat my baju semua. Baju putih for nikah, and baju pink utk reception. Also we booked the photographer sekali.

But during the engagement dinner october 2009, atas sebab2 yg tidak dapat dihalang, at the end of the day kita merancang Allah swt yg menentukan, correct? We had a change of plans. There was a request of having our wedding in July instead.

Bincang2 with vendor, they cannot give us refund.... and we cannot move to july pulak because the hall is no longer available. alhamdulillah, masjid boleh cancel, sebab tak bayar lagi.

Nasib baik i took all the same vedor for 19th and 20th, so kiranya the extra deposit i paid semua pergi ke downpaymen/deposit for 20 hb feb,since i have canceled the event on the 19th feb.

 But dewan komuniti if we cancel we loose all the payment that we have done, which is dewan, makeup artist, caterer, photographer. semua pun hilang. Baju je ok coz can simpan no problem.

after byk2 fikir non stop, the only solution i had was to postponed my reception but proceed with nikah. The tricky part is i have to use all my reception vendor utk nikah. Fikir2, we all pun buat keputusan, ok proceed nikah kat dewan komuniti, but reception plan yg lain in july...

so now all the vendor yg sab book utk reception semua dah tukar jadi nikah...

so yes, that is why my nikah became like that, sbb its actually my reception. Even the pink baju was for my reception, tapi sbb the pink theme was utk dewan komuniti tu, i pun pakai je baju reception for nikah.

My white baju nikah, now dah tukar utk reception pulak...

so now what happens to my reception?...hehehhe..


let's wait for part 2, nanti byk sgt writting org malas nak baca kan??

p/s: i so wish i can wear my baju pink for my reception again...hmmm....

Sunday, May 2, 2010

Hantaran







as i have mentioned in this entry, I was absolutely happy with my hantaran. It was so cantik, with the combination of my fav. flowers eustoma and roses.

MG was responsible for the hantaran in the first picture. oh again, i love the flower combination so much.

hantaran from the groom, was made personally by his cousins. I love the dulang for this very much.

Me and hubby decided to make our pertukaran hantaran simple, from me was ring, sejadah, chocolate, cake and a baju melayu

and he gave ring+mas kahwin, telekung+sejadah, cake, fruits, and baju kurung.

yes we indeed exchanged 5 and 5....

I think this was one of the biggest comments i received, this was the cause of many fallout and misunderstanding that i had with families and friends.

But alhamadulillah, in the end, it had all worked out for the best  for us...

I was told that the exchanging, started so kita tak datang rumah tetamu tangan kosong, which is mashaAllah what Rasulullah SAW has reminded us to do, to give gifts and buah tangan to each other within kemampuan..hehehe..

so , in conclusion, no girls, i was not trying to start a new trend or went against our adat, all i did, was i went old school, and back to exchanging gifts as tuan rumah and tetamu. Personal items due to safety reasons, we just exchange personally, also didn't want to worry about expensive things being displayed on the hantaran. Takut sgt hilang.

oh i miss those days, where hantaran was just dulang after dulang of food that we can eat after the wedding...heehe...as a child, it was my fav part.

p/s: do visit http://merisikgallery1.blogspot.com/ for more beautiful hantarans and the absolutely beautiful garden theme pelamin, they did in feb 2010, for amy's wedding.

wedding lace for sale


our dear beader zaza, is selling some beautiful lace ......

for more info kindly visit here

 http://beadmeplease.my/?p=248


or contact zaza directly


Zaza Zahari
+6012-9258220
Email.  - zaza@beadmeplease.my
            - beadmeplease@gmail.com
Website:
www.beadmeplease.my
www.beadmeplease.blogspot.com


p/s: zaza did beadings for my sisters nikah attire, and it was just soooo beautiful....nanti i will ask my sis for the picture...its just so cantik..